8个聊天技巧让你人见人爱

http://www.youth.cn  2014-04-07 15:46:07  中国青年网

  Knowing how to get the conversation started is important; however, keeping it going is even more important. Consider using a conversation hack to ensure that you’ll be a well-likedconversationalist. Here are 8 to try out:

  懂得如何开始聊天很重要,但让聊天持续更重要。用上聊天技巧,你就能成为受人欢迎的交谈对象。请看以下8个技巧:

  1. Invite People to Share About Their Lives

  引导对方谈论自己的生活

  The single most important conversation hack is to invite people to talk about their lives. Almost everyone enjoys talking about themselves. Show an interest in hearing about a person’s history, family, ideas, or goals and it will likely get the conversation going right away.

  最关键的技巧就是要引导对方谈论他们的生活。几乎所有人都喜欢谈论自己。所以,表现出对他人的故事、家庭、想法或目标感兴趣,交谈立马就能聊开了。

  Just make sure you don’t pry or become nosy. If a person appears uncomfortable sharing something personal, change the subject to a more neutral topic.

  当然,也别太爱打探别人的私事。如果提到私人话题时,对方表现得不舒服,那就换个中立点的话题。

  2. Give Welcomed Feedback

  给予热情回应

  Give feedback on what the person is talking about. Just make sure that your feedback is welcomed. Be positive and diplomatic in your feedback. Remaining honest is important, however, because the other person will see that you are beinggenuinerather than simply agreeing with everything you hear.

  回应对方的言谈,并确保你的回应能让对方接受。采取积极的外交方式予以反馈,当然,前提是要诚实中肯。要知道,你到底是真心回应还是随意附和,别人是能看出来的。

  3. Ask Open-Ended Questions

  提出开放式问题

  Open-ended questions require more than just a yes-or-no answer. Ask open-ended questions that encourage the other person to start discussing a topic in detail.

  开放式问题所要求的回答远不止是或否,它鼓励对方详细谈起某个话题。

  For example, ask, “What made you decide to pursue nursing?” Or, “How did you like living in Hawaii?” These questions really encourage another person to offer information about their story and they invite them to share their opinion.

  比如,像“是什么让你决定从事护理的呢?”或“你为什么喜欢住在夏威夷?”之类的问题,可以引导对方讲述更多自己的故事和想法。

  4. Wait for Your Turn to Talk

  等轮到你讲话时再说

  Whatever you do, don’t interrupt. Instead, wait patiently for your turn to talk. Interrupting is one of the quickest ways to shut down a conversation and irritate the other person.

  千万别打断对方讲话,耐心等着,轮到你时再讲。插话最会扼杀聊天,甚至惹恼对方。

  Show that you value what others are saying. Truly listen to what is being said rather than trying to think of what you will say next.

表现出你尊重对方讲话的样子,真心倾听对方在说什么,而不要私下想着下一句你该回应什么。

编辑:廖书曼 来源:沪江英语网

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